Monday, May 30, 2011

Will He EVER Leave His Ex??

Will He EVER Leave His Ex??

A woman asks why her BF’s ex continues to call. Duh! He obviously encourages it . . . She says that SHE is ready for HIM to move on. Excuse me??



Courtesy of’s Happen Magazine

Dear Dr. Gilda,

I am dating a man who, at the time we met, was in the process of divorce. I was understanding, since I, too, was going through a divorce. His ex broke her back while driving drunk a year after they met, and she is paralyzed from the waist down. He was willing to stick it out with her regardless, but she chose to move out.

Now that I’m in his life, she will not let go and he doesn’t seem clear on where his heart lies. She continues to call my boyfriend day and night. I asked him to please ask her not to call him, and he says he can’t just turn his back on her, as they are still friends — which, he says, is all he wants. But why on earth does she continue to call? When I bring it up, we argue. I don’t want to let this ruin everything we’re starting to build.

When is it time for him to cut his ties with her — disabled or not? I don’t want to be cruel, but we took it slow at first and now I’m ready for him to move on. Or maybe I’m the one who should cut my ties. Please help!

Questioning His Commitment

Don't you wonder what this woman is smoking??

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DR. GILDA CARLE (Ph.D.) is an internationally known psychotherapist, relationship educator, and management consultant. She is’s “ASK DR. GILDA” advice columnist. She is also known as the Country Music Doctor, with her “Country Cures.” She is a motivational speaker, professor of psychology & communications, the author of the well-known “Don’t Bet on the Prince!,” a test question on “Jeopardy,” AND NOW IN ITS SECOND EDITION, 99 Prescriptions for Fidelity, How to Win When Your Mate Cheats, and many more. She was the therapist in HBO's Emmy Award winner, "Telling Nicholas," featured on Oprah, where she guided a family to tell their 7-year-old that his mom died in the World Trade Center bombing. DR. GILDA is the Love Doc advisor for the off-Broadway show, “Miss Abigail’s Guide to Dating, Mating, & Marriage!” She is currently developing her own TV show. Visit and get her Instant Advice!

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