Tuesday, July 8, 2008

A-Rod, Madonna, Kabbalah, and the Betrayed


Dr. Gilda Carle believes that A-Rod’s final put-down of his wife, Cynthia, was the best thing to happen to their sham of a marriage. “He’s not good husband material,” Dr. Gilda says. “He’s a ‘cheataholic,’” her term for a love junkie addicted to secret passions behind the back of an unsuspecting partner. Dr. Gilda suggests he is probably biochemically prone to the rush of that accompanies falling in love—which is no different from winning a pennant.

Blaming Madonna or Kabbala, or anything or anyone else puts Cynthia Rodriguez in victim mode, and enhances A-Rod’s power as persecutor. Before Madonna, there was the blond stripper with whom he was sharing hotel rooms, as well as the stories of other extramarital affairs. “That was humiliating enough—and it should have been Cynthia’s Red Flag to leave skid marks then,” Dr. Gilda advises.

A betrayed mate can chose among 3 options: 1) become a poor-me victim (as Cynthia is doing now, which, ironically, will probably help her court case); ) become a vengeful fighter (like belligerently wearing an F-You t-shirt to your husband’s game, which made her appear to be angry and vindictive); 3) become a take-charge winner (which is what Dr. Gilda recommends for personal health and future relationships).

Dr. Gilda says that the best revenge is doing well—because it keeps you well. Her new E-book is “How to WIN When Your Mate Cheats,” immediately downloadable for the pained and suffering:
Now Cynthia should forgive—and remember. The forgiving is for HER at this moment, to relieve the burden of pain and regret. But the remembering is for her future, so she is reminded of why she hooked up with the cheataholic, so she won’t do it again with A-Rod or someone just like him.

In every relationship, the person who takes the best care of him/herself, gains the greatest respect from his/her partner. Ultimately, Dr. Gilda’s Gilda-Gram is: “Self care is a marriage saver!” See

DR. GILDA CARLE (Ph.D.) is a nationally known psychotherapist, relationship expert, & management consultant. She is’s weekly Suddenly Single advice columnist on’s Dating & Personals page. She is also the founder of the video blog, GildaVision, on and YouTube. Her new e-Book is “How to WIN when Your Mate Cheats”: She is a motivational speaker, a professor of psychology & communications, and the author of "Don't Bet on the Prince!" (a test question on "Jeopardy!"). DR. GILDA was the therapist in HBO's Emmy Award winner, "Telling Nicholas," featured on Oprah, where she guided a family to tell their 7-year-old that his mom died in the World Trade Center bombing.

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