Tuesday, April 10, 2007

"The Secret" of Relationships

For years, I have been teaching college courses in an accelerated business leadership program for adults completing their degrees. For as many years, I have also been conducting corporate workshops to increase the bottom line through enhanced business relationships. The required reading for all I do is my book, “Don’t Bet on the Prince! How to Have the Man You Want by Betting on Yourself,” published in 1999. While the title suggests a women’s self-help book (and it was written with that in mind), in reality, it is a guide to uncovering who you are, where you want to go, and how to get there. And happily, it has changed the lives of both women and men. (See

This year, something boosted my outreach to my audiences. “The Secret” took the world by storm. It pinpoints the Law of Attraction. This past week, as my students and audiences were reading my book, they were highlighting the similarities between my tenets and those of “The Secret.” Synchronistically, John Gray, renowned author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus," is a contributor to "The Secret," and he also gave my book a glowing testimonial on its front cover: "...Good advice, as provocative as it is sensible."

Just some of my Gilda-Grams in the book include, “We attract not who we want, but who we are.” And, “Amp up your attitude of gratitude,” And, “Instead of saying, ‘This is my problem,’ say, ‘This is my power.’” While my now-renowned Gilda-Grams are not the precise words of “The Secret,” their concepts are derived from the same credo of responsibility, respect, and living the Capital ‘I’ life, as I name it. Oprah said she was surprised to learn this was a “Secret” because she’s been living her life by these principles all along. As I walk my talk myself, that’s precisely how I feel.

I am so grateful “The Secret” is out. With this as a backdrop, now when I say that “Don’t Bet on the Prince!” is “The Secret” for relationships, everyone on the planet understands. My Gilda-Gram for having the relationship you want is, “Live the Capital ‘I’ Life, otherwise in lower case “i” you’ll attract lower case losers.” And that is because “We attract not who we want, but WHO WE ARE.” If you really, really, really want to enhance your relationships, complete the Self-Assessments in the book. (I originally developed them for myself when I was down and out!) They truly guide you to boost your life!

I just returned to New York from L.A. Whenever I’m there, I visit the Agape Spiritual Center, run by Reverend Michael Beckwith. Because he had been one of the featured speakers on “The Secret” and on “Oprah,” the Center was more mobbed than ever. But hearing him is worth it; he is an amazingly gifted orator. If you can’t get to Agape, buy some tapes or CD’s of his sermons. You will be enlightened and moved!

“The Secret” is out. Now it’s up to you to act on it! Don’t bet on the “prince”—whether it’s a partner, a job, a family member, a company, or a friend. Bet on yourself—and show the world you shine.

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